Love and Respect in the Family

(Disclosure:  I received the book Love and Respect in the Family from Booksneeze in order to facilitate my review.  All opinions shared are my own.)

Over a year ago, I went through a book study on Love & Respect in the Marriage.  It was an awesome study and I learned a ton.  When I saw the Love & Respect in the Family available on BookSneeze, I knew it was the book I wanted this time around.  This book is full of very useful knowledge of how parents want respect and children need love.  Without it the Family Crazy Cycle starts.  Without love children react without respect, without respect parents act without love.  Sounds confusing but it makes perfect sense.  I love how this book ties in real life stories from the Eggerichs personal family life.  Their stories make me feel like I am not alone.  I am not the only one dealing with the issues with my kids that I am dealing with.  It also gives us advice and tips on how to make it a better home for our children.  I am doing another book study on this book with family and we are on chapter 2 and it is awesome!  I would recommend this book to anyone who is a parent.

About this book:

Children need love.  Parents need respect.  It is as simple and complex as that!

When frustrated with an unresponsive child, a parent doesn't declare, "You don't love me."  Instead the parent asserts, "You are being disrespectful right now."  A parent need to feel respected, especially during conflicts.  When upset, a child does not whine, "You don't respect me."  Instead, a child pouts, "You don't love me."  A child needs to feel loved, especially during disputes.

But here's the rub:  An unloved child (or teen) negatively reacts in a way that feels disrespectful to a parent.  A disrespected parent negatively reacts in a way that feels unloving to the child.  This dynamic gives birth to the Family Crazy Cycle.

So, how is one to break out of this cycle?  Best-selling author Emerson Eggerichs has studied the family dynamic for more than 30 years, having his Ph.D. in Child and Family Ecology.  As a senior pastor for nearly two decades, Eggerichs builds on a foundation of strong biblical principles, walking the reader through an entirely new way to approach the family dynamic.  For instance, God reveals ways to defuse the craziness with our children from preschooler to teen, plus how to motivate them to obey an dhow to deal with them when they don't.  In the Bible, God has spoken specifically to parents on how to parent.  This book is about that revelation.